Polyamory All Fun And Games Until Your Husband Boinks His GF

Feminist activist Lindy West is a fat, white, middle-aged American woman. She has pink hair and a septum piercing. And she’s in a throuple. 

West “reluctantly agreed to a non-monogamous marriage,” according to The New York Times (NYT). West sat down with Anna Martin, host of the NYT’s “Modern Love” podcast, to divulge far too many details about her relationship with her husband and her husband’s girlfriend. (RELATED: When Should Normal People Start Referring To ‘Polycules’ As Sex Cults?)

“So my initial reaction was, I was devastated. Our initial conversation was a lot of me crying and being like, I don’t want anyone else,” West says.

That seems a good enough reason not to go through with this deranged arrangement. But West overrides her instincts and attempts to accept her husband seeing another woman, eventually meeting her husband’s girlfriend.

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“And she was so nice. And she was just a tiny, little, beautiful — goth. Just very much an inverse of me in a lot of ways, and of course in ways that made me feel wildly insecure.”

Naturally. West’s devastation is clear. 

West says she was “doing all this work in therapy” to overcome her (natural and correct) displeasure with her husband’s actions. 

West later has sex with her husband and his new girlfriend. In 2022, the three became a “romantic triad.” 

“I wasn’t looking for [non-monogamy], but it found me … What I found on the other side was a way better life than before for me,” West claims. (RELATED: Dems Are Increasingly Okay With Cheating On Their Spouses, Survey Shows)

Rather, West appears to have devised a series of elaborate coping mechanisms for coming to terms with her husband cheating on her with a more attractive woman. 

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